Are you sure we have conflicting goals?

What initially looks like conflicting goals might not be...

What is actually your position? Maybe I just don't understand.

What specifically do I disagree with?  Is it every aspect of your position? Or only really a specific subset?  Let's not worry about what we are already okay with and focus on what we need to resolve.  Maybe the aspects of our positions that conflict are not actually that important and we can just adjust them.

Why do you have this position? What are your interests?  What outcomes does your position provide you that you want?  Are there alternative ways to satisfy both your and my interests?  Maybe we just need to be more creative with our solutions.